This morning, over a cup of tea, I had this meaningful discussion on “love” (my favorite subject 🙂 ) with my brother-in-law and sister. We discussed about the difference between “love”, “attraction in friendship”, and admiration. The perspectives that we shared were indeed interesting. I immediately decided to write on this topic and share with my readers to know their opinion on this.
Love is like a friendship caught on fire. In the beginning a flame, very pretty, often hot and fierce, but still only light and flickering. As love grows older, our hearts mature and our love becomes as coals, deep-burning and unquenchable. ~~ Bruce Lee .
I found this quote on the Internet. Just loved the words “Love is like a friendship caught on fire” and “As love grows older, our hearts mature and our love becomes as coals, deep-burning and unquenchable”. These words, very aptly, describe what love is, and how different it is from the initial “only attraction/admiration/infatuation”.
When you meet someone attractive or appealing (either in looks or other attributes), you tend to make friends with them. Friendship grows – you often spend time together. You look forward to each meeting. Moments together with that special friend becomes “precious”. You feel like talking to that person more frequently, more than your daily chit-chats. Your friendship appears like a flame of a candle, often hot and fierce, but still only light and flickering in the beginining.
I think attraction/admiration/infatuation for someone can happen due to his/her unique qualities (looks or other attributes, as I mentioned earlier). It could be a temporary phase. It may vaoprize sooner or later. You need to watch your heart – how it feels after a while. Your feelings may fluctuate with time.
But, love is mature. It stays on! If you just won’t accept anyone in liu of your friend. And, won’t let him/her go in any circumstances, you are certainly in love.
Love grows mature and becomes as coals, deep-burning and unquenchable.