Let’s Demand Strict laws for Rape Cases…

Ever since I heard of this brutal rape case of Delhi, I can’t stop thinking about the girl who is battling to survive. It’s not the first time that I felt so sick to the core of body and soul. The gang rape of the 8-year old, Barnali in Guwahati, also gave me the similar feelings.

As a woman, I feel insecure in this country, where men roam on the streets like hungry cannibals, looking for innocent prey.

I feel ashamed that I am born in a country where the society is so hypocrite that it makes separate societal norms for men and women – making them aware completely, that men are a superior breed. Societal rituals are for women to follow, and mind you, they are quite strict for women and loose for men. The mind of a man is set from childhood to think that he is the super breed and he is capable of controlling a woman – in any possible way.

This confidence that builds up in the mind of a man is strengthened by the lawlessness of the nation.

Nobody – in fact nobody in the legislature is bothered about making laws that are stringent and exemplary.

Whenever an incident of this magnitude happens, the media fights a lonely battle and then becomes quite – what can they do? They are running no NGO – they are also into the business and that’s their job – just to bring news to you and me! The real power rests on the parliamentarians, who can change / modify/ amend the existing obsolete laws.

They can make the laws and punishments for such crimes so strong, that no one should even dare to THINK of teasing a woman / girl – raping should become thing of the past.

Police should be trained well to handle rape cases – and treat victim with care and sympathy. Strict and very strict laws should be made in this respect also! Every police official should know that he is BOUND by laws to take quick action on a rapist and handle a rape victim with utmost care and sympathy.

Is it possible?

Now, when I write this piece, I know my voice will go unheard – no Sushma Swaraj, Mayawati, Uma Bharti, or Mamata Banerjee will respond to the heartache of a woman – I have lost all hopes.

But, I am writing this because YOU are reading. You and I who make the electorate. We have the power to make it clear to all political parties – No action from your front, means no action from our side. If you make laws as desired by the nation, we will stand by you, and if you don’t, sit on the opposition bench. Make them believe – the NATION IS WATCHING.

My heart goes out for all rape and eve teasing victims – some lost life and some are struggling to survive. Tears roll down my eyes to even think of the parents who are going through this mess for no fault at all!

Tomorrow it could be YOU, me, or your and my loved ones – going through this same horrific situation. Is it OK to sit back and watch. Hasn’t the time come when we should mobilize public opinion on this and communicate this to the leaders of this country – and especially to those over 100 women Parliamentarians who represent the “so-called” weaker sex?

Rise up India! Wake up India!

True Love – Through my eyes.

True love is selfless. It seeks no reason to celebrate togetherness. It is all about building trust and living up to it. True love makes you feel cared for. It makes your view myopic in so far as seeking beauty outside your beloved is concerned. It’s about bothering the least about anything else besides seeking ecstacy with your beloved. It’s about forgiving and let go and draw the best out of the partner. True love strengthens your soul, and.never breaks you.

Just One Life to Live

Do you believe in previous birth, or next? If you do, still this post holds some message for you. And if you don’t, then this post is just for you.

To start with, I’d like to share an experience with you. Last night, I was at a local eating joint with my family. It was 10 pm at night. I was tired after a long day at work, and was already half-demoralized by some demotivating events that took place during the day. I wanted some break, away from work. So, it was a nice relaxing evening, full of laughter, joy, and fun with my loved ones.

When I was all set to order the food, I called a waiter. He came to me with a smile on his face, which I believe, was the best of all I saw that day. He was lanky guy, hair trimmed to a centimeter in length. His uniform was worn out, but his body language and facial appearance was just the opposite – vibrant! The slightly titled badge on his narrow chest read – Kaushik – that was his name.

I placed the order for food and he gracefully noted them down – not on his notebook, but on his left palm, with the index figure of his right hand running and making moves, like a pen on a notebook. He left to get the food.

I was impressed by his zest and enthusiasm, and at the same time, felt a bit ashamed and guilty. I asked myself: How much do you think is his salary? What could be his next career move? Does he own a career at all? Can he buy a car for himself in this lifetime? The answer that came back was a “No!”.

I felt a hollow and a void in my heart. I instantly realized one thing: We have just one life to live! There is no surety  of getting another life after death. This is the life we have to live with all our joys and sorrows – with fulfillment and void. Then, why crib? Why not live each day with extreme passion and craze? Why shed tears for people who don’t care for us? Why not live for those who care, rather! 

I understood, in those 5 minutes of meeting that enthusiastic waiter, the real meaning of the fantastic journey called life.

If you are depressed about one missing happiness in your life, think of the people who don’t have any. Nothing should break you. People overcome the loss like the demise of a loved one!! Then, can a job loss, failed expectations, or broken heart, have the capacity to break you? Life is beautiful; you just need to live it for yourself “first”. Do something that you are passionate about; bring thrill into your life. Leave those people alone, who care a damn for you. Maybe during their lone time, they too learn to value this “one” life and the blessing of having people like you in their life…or maybe, you learn to accept them as they are or learn to deal with them in the right manner.

Here’s a quote from Montel that means so much to me. Sharing with you.

Live with no excuses and love with no regrets

    Don’t excuse yourself from the fun of life, just because you have been betrayed or ditched.  Live your life to the hilt, with no regrets for the wrong choices you made. Remember – You, at least, learnt what not to choose for the next time. 🙂

    Don’t give up perusing your passion just because you feel that you have grown old enough to do that. Many maestros have started learning their art in old age, to master that before they died. Is it not an achievement? At least they lived their passion and died with it, happy.

    Shed tears only when you achieve something that you thought you wouldn’t be able to – I mean, shed sweet tears of happiness.

    Learn to forgive. Because, forgiving someone makes you a victor and the one who is forgiven gets life. Remember – You are richer than him / her because you have a kind heart.

    I am no guru to preach anything. But, this is what I have learnt in this life, through the joyous days and dark nights of my life. And, I think I am stronger person than I thought I was.

    Learn to growl at your problems with all your might. They are coward dogs. Sooner or later, they will flee leaving you in absolute happiness and peace. 🙂

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