Injured by Cupid at First Sight?

Ten years back, sitting at the corridors of my college, I was arguing with a classmate that “love at first sight” is a cinematic theme – can’t be a reality. He argued: Doesn’t this happen to many! I retorted: Oh come on! That is physical attraction and nothing else! The argument didn’t reach any conclusion. He stood up and walked away in anger.

I had this strong belief at heart that to fall in love with someone, you need to know the person well. You should know his nature, tastes, choices and beliefs. And obviously, they should match with yours! I was firm in my belief.

Years later, in 2006, my cousin was looking for a suitable girl for marriage. I played the match-maker and arranged my colleague (a nice homely girl) for this cousin of mine. I fixed a meeting for both of them at a CCD, in my presence. I was of the notion that they would meet, and if they liked each other, they would court for a couple of months and then decide to marry.

To my surprise, we met, and over a cup of steaming Cappuccino, they even decided how they would decorate the sitting area of their “would-be” home after marriage! OMG!! I sat with my jaws almost touching the ground. I asked myself: What on earth is going on? Are they crazy? How can they decide that they are a perfect match for themselves?

In two months time, they were engaged and were coochie-cooing together. 🙂 I kept asking myself: Ye kya tha? What was it? Love at first sight? I smirked! Never did I know that cupid had all plans to injure me…very soon.;)

In their wedding, I met this guy – my cousin’s best friend. I was a school teacher then – shy, introvert, serious-looking, small-town girl. And he was tall and handsome, extrovert, metro-guy. My cousin introduced me with him. He smiled at me and greeted, just like a gentleman greets a lady. I liked his polite gestures. I liked men who displayed respect and care for women.

It was a social gathering, so there was a huge crowd always around.

We always interacted in a group discussion, with all elders of our family being a part of it. It was great fun. We sang, danced and joked together.

It was my cousin’s wedding day. I was dressed in a rose pink silk sari, waiting for the rest of the baraatis (groom’s folks) to get ready!. I saw him walking towards me, my heart skipped beats, didn’t know by then, what was going wrong within me. He came and stood beside me. He looked at me, smiled and said: You look pretty, lady! And, he smiled. My heart almost stopped! Then we chatted for about an hour and exchanged our phone numbers.

Later in the evening, he disclosed: Tomorrow I shall be off to Kolkata for an urgent work. He smiled. I don’t know what exactly happened to me, but I felt extremely sad. It was, I guess, evident from the frail smile I returned.

Next day, he left for Kolkata. Whole day I sensed a vacuum within my heart. I kept asking myself: What is wrong with you? He was just another guy you met last evening! What is bothering you? I couldn’t answer my “self”. I knew very well by the sunset that I was in love – love at first sight. I had fallen in love with this guy whom I met only for a day, chatted for a few hours. It didn’t take me much time to realize that “love at first sight” does happen. It is not physical attraction, necessarily.

I felt sad at the thought that something that I always despised, has finally happened to me and I stood helpless. It pained to even think that I had almost lost the love that I found in a few hours of togetherness.

That evening was a reception party at my cousin’s place. All were getting ready for the “much-awaited” ballistic party. But I felt lost. Why on earth the realization hit me so late? I asked myself? Have I lost him?

Then, all of a sudden, I heard my cousin talking over his cell phone. He said: Yes, tell the cab driver to take a left turn, and then straight and then right again. Yes, we are waiting, come along!” As some far off relatives were still pouring in for the party, I knew there was another gang of cousins on their way to the venue. I felt irritated. I didn’t want to smile.

Another cousin of mine was decorating the main gate with flowers. He asked for my help. I couldn’t say “no”. I pulled a chair, stood on it and started decorating the entrance with flowers. While, I was decorating the entrance with flower garlands, I sensed someone stood close to me from behind. I turned back and almost fell off the chair. It was the same guy – My cousin’s friend. He smiled and said: I have come just for you! 🙂

I stood motionless, unable to believe my eyes and ears. He said: Hello! Won’t you say a hello? My heart jumped in joy. I was shy. I stepped down and the chair and said: Hello! I thought you wouldn’t come. He said: Lady, I think you do not check you SMS-es. Please check your inbox. He smiled profusely.

I checked my cellphone. There was an SMS from him that said: Monika… I had my tickets to Udaipur from Kolkata. But while I flew from Guwahati to Kolkata, I realized that I couldn’t leave a priced belonging back. So, I came back. I left my heart over here, with you. Just came to exchange it with yours. Will you give me?

We both smiled at each other. We knew, cupid had injured us at the first sight – we were in love.

Years rolled by. We became great friends, lovers and today, we are married for three years. Yes, today I believe in “love at first sight”. I now believe that the meeting point, place and time are all pre-decided. Two people are just brought face-to-face. Same happened with us also.

Hence, I learnt: Love just strikes! It never knocks at your door. That is why you may find strangest love stories on earth. That is why you don’t fall in love with every person you meet in your daily life. You fall in love with that “one special” person, for whom your heart skips beats. Do you have a love story to share? 😉


For the Love of my Life – Rahul

The November chill is here…
Everyday I feel the Foggy breeze,
I touch the dew drops clinging to the blades of green grass.
And smell the tube roses in the backyard..
The winking stars and the climber that adores the window sill..
Are all talking of you, I know.
I am here, listening to them and feeling your caresses in the touch of the breeze.
Smelling you in the midst of the chill of this darkness.
In the hint of the moonlit night, I see you walk beside me…
I feel your touch on my forehead, when I lay fatigued after a hard day at work.
You are far from me..but at the same time so near..
That none can be… you are here in my heart..
Laughing at me, when I am angry
Pulling my nose from “nowhere”, when I am naughty.
Kissing my lips, when I am shy.
You are my love…my best friend..
You are the conqueror of all my miseries – your are the conqueror of my heart.
…. the solace of my soul.

26/11 – Tears Forgotten…09/11 – Revenge Taken

Last night, I watched a well-made documentary – Targetting Osama – on History TV 18. If Osama Bin Laden is really killed, which is true in most probability, then I salute President Obama and his team for realizing the promise they made to the Americans when he came into power.

The documentary spoke at length about the strategic planning that President Obama and his team made in order to execute the plan. I was surprised and at the same time impressed by the grit that the American leadership displayed in the hour of crisis.

While I was admiring President Obama, his team and the American military special forces – Seal Team 6, who executed the killing of Osama, the man behind the massacre of thousands of innocent Americans, one thought that was killing me within was that the person responsible for the killing of innocent Indians in 26/11 Mumbai attacks, Ajmal Kasab is alive and healthy, enjoying hospitality in Indian prison and apparently learning Marathi!

Afzal Guru, the mastermind behind the Parliament attack is also having merry time, living his lease of life, granted by the Government!

I was taken by absolute surprise as to how the US military sneaked into the Pakistani soil, killed their enemy (Osama), lifted his body and all the secret data that he had! It needs absolute determination and patriotism to carry out this daunting task. They have proved to the world that anyone who tries to mess with the Americans, will see a similar end. And see, interestingly, there has been no such terror activity in the USA after 09/11! This means the message has gone strongly to the terrorists that the USA will not tolerate any terror activity, anyway.

On the other hand, I am also surprised by the silence the Indian government has been maintaining about the execution of Ajmal Kasab and Afzal Guru. Almost all the Indians today wish to see these two beasts hanging to death. But the government is reluctant. Does the government realize what message this silence is sending across to the terrorists? The message is clear – Government is weak and incapable of fighting terrorism. Look back for a minute and see, time has already testified this. The recent Mumbai blasts in Javeri Market is an example.

Tukaram Ombale laid his life to capture Kasab, Major Sandeep Unnikrishnan died at the age of 31, while fighting the terrorists inside Hotel Taj, ATS chief Hemanat Karkare and many “unnamed” and “unsung” heroes fought till their last blood oozed out of their bodies. But, the Government simply doesn’t care!!

Is a gallantry award enough to pay homage to the departed brave-hearts? Was this all that they wished for while they breathed their last? Absolutely NO! They only wished to nail the bloody terrorists.

Never could they have imagined that the Governance would be so unfair to keep Kasab alive and feed him and make him healthier.

The strangest fact is that the families of 26/11 martyrs, including former ATS chief Hemant Karkare and braveheart cop Tukaram Ombale, are yet to receive compensation under the Prime Minister’s National Relief Fund, reported Times of India.

This only proves that India has forgotten the sacrifices of our martyrs. What to say about our politicians! I refuse to call them “leaders”. They are not! If they were, they would choose to act responsibly and bring these terrorists to book.

I am ashamed that I could not do anything for the departed brave souls – our commandos, policemen and the other innocent civilians.

Futility of Life

All of us are busy in our own pursuits – personal and professional.

On the professional front, each day, you see, is a battle field. The battle to survive amongst the fittest. You give your best and you rise. But the struggle to sustain that position is horrific. It’s not about just earning currency notes! It’s about surviving and sustaining.

The irony is that, all companies are aggressive. They are just bothered about their top line and bottom line growth. A slight mistake on your part if causes loss of client relationships or decrease in the top line, might result in the loss of your job – even if you were a star performer in the last fiscal.

On personal front, it’s all about finding and sustaining love in relationships. Making our loved ones happy, irrespective of the fact that many times it’s not reciprocated. But loving is all about giving and not expecting in return. How many of us really dwell in this “selfless” thought?

Someone once told me about something called “the inverted pyramid of relationships”. At the broader top of the pyramid reside those, whom you love and care for the most. And at the bottom, that is at the apex of the pyramid reside those, whom you love and care, but not more than the ones who reside at the top.

The meaning is simple – Love flows in the reverse order. Let’s look at this example. When you are single, your parents, siblings, and your closest friends are the ones whom you love the most. Hence, they reside at the broader top of the inverted pyramid of relationships. The moment you find a life partner, your love starts flowing towards your life partner. The focus of your life now shifts a few degrees towards him/her.

Parents, siblings and friends complain of lack of attention from your side. And you do not care a bit. Your love, care and attentions flows towards your life partner. Now what happens? Your parents, siblings, and friends slip down lower in the pyramid of relationships and your better half resides at the top.

Soon you have kids. What’s the story now? Your focus is now drawn towards your kids and shifts a few degrees away from your life partner. All your love and care is directed towards your kids. You smile for them, you care for their needs and desires. more than anybody else’s! You still love your parents, siblings, life partner, and friends, but no doubt it is way lesser than your love and care for your kids. Quite natural! Now the life partner ironically sinks below in the pyramid of relationships.

Now your children grow up and start having life of their own. Their personal life! They get busy in their personal and career pursuits. You feel ignored and you get back to the refuge of your life partner. You get closer to him/her like never before.

When your kids get married and have their own kids, your life partner and your kids sink below in the pyramid. Now your grandchildren become your priority. You love them and treasure them like your priced possessions. This is the time when your parents (who may have left this world) are forgotten and out of the pyramid, your life partner and best friends are at the lowest level (that is at the apex of the inverted pyramid); above that are your kids (that is at the center of the inverted pyramid) and at the top are your lovely grandchildren (that is at the broader top of the inverted pyramid).

Love flows downwards in generations. Every relationship fades with the coming of another newer one. This is the futility of life. Nothing is stable, neither your power, status, nor love.